Many times we find ourselves in situations that appear bleak. We search for a solution, a way out but fail to find one. We are stuck. What can we do? Chazal[1] understand the story of Yehuda’s meeting with Yosef as just such a situation. We can learn from Yehuda what to do.
Chazal base their understanding on a pasuk in Mishlei (6:1-3), “בני אם ערבת לרעך תקעת לזר כפיך: נוקשת באמרי פיך ... עשה זאת אפוא בני והנצל ... לך התרפס ורהב רעיך:/My son, if you have been a guarantor for your friend, if you have given your handshake to a stranger, you have been trapped by the words of your mouth … Do this, therefore, my son, and be rescued ... Go humble yourself before him, and placate your fellow.”
Chazal understand this pasuk metaphorically as referring to Yehuda. He made himself a guarantor for Binyamin. He promised his father that he would bring Binyamin back. He was in a situation in which this looked like an impossible task. The viceroy of the most powerful country in the world was about to take Binyamin for a slave. What could he do? The Midrash tells us, “Go humble yourself before Him …” Humble yourself before God.
The Sfas Emes teaches that man was created in order to bring the entire Creation closer to God. In the garden of Eden, this was obvious to Adam. It was obvious that the purpose was to connect with God. However, after his sin and banishment from Gan Eden, this fact became much less obvious. It is not at all obvious to most of us. In the words of the pasuk, “We have given our handshake to a stranger.” This refers to the desire and lust to become involved in things that are not good, that distance us from God. These desires color our perception. We find this clearly in a pasuk in Iyov (34:11), “כי פועל אדם ישלם לו .../For He repays a man according to his deeds …”
A classic example of this was the sale of Yosef. When the brothers sold Yosef, they distanced themselves from brotherly love. As a result, when they met Yosef in Egypt, he seemed to them to be an enemy. Yet, he was just Yosef, their brother. They were living with a false perception resulting from their own actions. There was no way they could see the truth – that Yosef was standing before them, not an enemy – until they fixed the underlying cause of this false perception.
The only thing to do, Chazal teach, is to acknowledge and accept God. This is what Yehuda did. The first pasuk of our parsha is, “ויגש אליו יהודה ויאמר בי אדוני .../Yehuda approached him and said, please my master …” Chazal understand that this pasuk is referring not only to Yehuda approaching Yosef. On a deeper level, it is referring to Yehuda approaching God. Yehuda realized that the only way out of this terrible situation was to acknowledge God in it. He did this to the extent that he was ready to sacrifice his own life to save Binyamin.
The result was, “ולא יכול יוסף להתאפק .../Yosef could not contain himself …” The plain meaning is that Yosef was unable to continue the charade. He was forced to reveal himself. However, on a deeper level, Yosef represents the hidden spirituality within everything[2]. That spirituality is hidden in this world. The physical that hides it seems to have a separate, autonomous existence, God forbid. By acknowledging and accepting that this is not the case but rather that God is truly here with us and in every thing and every action, we merit a deeper perception of the truth. “Yosef” is automatically revealed.
Yehuda had no idea from where salvation would come. He just knew that he had to acknowledge God in the situation. This is true for every single situation in which we find ourselves. We give the physical world around us a reality that it does not deserve and then find ourselves in situations of our own making. They are essentially self-created illusions. We no longer see the truth but rather a projection of what we think is the truth.
Chazal advise us to acknowledge God in everything and the truth will automatically be revealed to us. May we merit it!